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What Survival Mode Really Looks Like — and How to Find Your Way Out
We often think of “survival mode” as something that only happens during extreme situations — a crisis, a trauma, a major life change. But the truth is, survival mode can settle into your life slowly and quietly, until one day you look around and realize… you don’t remember the last time you felt okay.
I know because I lived there for over a decade.
The Silent Burnout Cycle You Don’t Even Realize You’re In
I need you to get real with me for a second:
Has pushing through ever actually helped you relieve stress — or has it just buried you deeper?
We live in a world that glorifies the "push through" mentality. We're taught that if we just work harder, hustle faster, and ignore our exhaustion, we’ll eventually "win" — at work, at life, at everything.
But here’s the hard truth:
The push through mentality is a lie.
And if you're anything like I was, you know deep down it’s not working.
When we push through stress — when we force ourselves to "just keep going" — we aren't actually solving anything. We're layering exhaustion on top of stress... and layering burnout on top of that.
Nervous system regulation & healing! Danvers Ma Men’s Coach
Nervous System Regulation & the Depth of Holistic Healing Trauma isn’t just a story we carry in our minds—it’s something our bodies hold onto, often for years. As a healer, I had already spent several years working through fear, shame, and guilt—doing the deep inner work, releasing layer after layer.
But what I didn’t realize was how much of it was still embedded in the fabric of my body—stored in my fascia, my muscles, even my organs.
This wasn’t new work—it was deeper work. The kind that forces you to feel everything you thought you already healed. My body had become so constricted that it felt like it was slowly squeezing me to death. I couldn’t hold onto it any longer. Releasing these buried emotions has been a raw, painful, and powerful process.
A trial of letting go over and over again. But it’s also been a path to freedom. Through nervous system regulation and somatic healing, I’ve learned how to finally create space—space to breathe, to feel safe, and to come home to my body in a way I never had before.
This work is a reminder that healing isn’t linear. It’s layered. And every layer matters.
Updating everyone on my healing journey
Updating everyone on my healing journey and how important it was for me to use and start early with holistic modalities. I used breathwork, MFR, Reiki, Shamanic Journeys, Acupuncture, Spinal Flow Energetics with a NO CRACK CHIRO! Going to PT for the Physical. Early on I was lucky to have business partners that do breathwork, MFR and Reiki and Somatic work. They worked on me and it was such a process to get me just to a place of 50% better. Each day was a smidge better and I can't even stress how incredibly lucky I am to have had these people in my corner.
Reframing Anxiety: A New Perspective on Healing
Anxiety is something many of us experience, yet we rarely stop to question how we talk about it. More often than not, we treat it as a flaw, something to be ashamed of or managed quietly. But what if we've been looking at anxiety the wrong way?
Anxiety isn’t a personal failure. It’s not a sign that you’re weak, broken, or incapable. In reality, anxiety is a signal—a message from your body that something needs your attention. The real issue isn’t the anxiety itself, but how we respond to it.
For years, we’ve been taught that the best we can do is cope—deep breathing, mindfulness, or grounding exercises. While these can help in the moment, they often only address the symptoms, not the root cause. True healing requires us to go deeper, to understand what anxiety is trying to tell us, and—most importantly—to stop identifying with it.
the millionaire next door can be you!
Did you know that if you invested $100 per month in a market rate account, starting at age 25, the result would be $1,176,000 by the time you reach 65. This is assuming you reinvested the monthly earnings, and you did not withdraw anything from the account during the forty-year period.
This is a no brainer, right?
Why aren’t you or your young adult children or grandchildren saving now for the future?
People create excuses as to why they have not saved money for the future. Typically, the culprits are a lack of discipline and prioritizing wants over needs. Let’s also not deny the fact that in the USA, financial education starting as early as 7 years old is not a priority, and that lack of education continues all the way up to high school level and well into middle age for many people.
The Importance of Self-Love: Why Loving Yourself Changes Everything
Are you constantly searching for love and approval from outside of yourself? Maybe it’s from your parents, your partner, or your children. Maybe you grew up getting praised by coaches and teachers. This external love helps to temporarily fill a void within us, especially when it’s near constant since we’re getting it from all areas of our lives.
It’s what happens when we live in a society that teaches us to chase success, accomplishment, and beauty – we fall into the trap of external validation.
But what if the love we truly need has been right in front of us all along?
This is where self-love comes into play, and it’s one of the most powerful ways to heal yourself.
How Early Money Beliefs Shape Our Financial Future
This past weekend, my husband and I decided to visit the local breakfast cafe where they placed us next to an adorable little family, a mommy, a daddy and a sweet baby girl. As I was eating, I looked to my left thinking she is so calm just minding her P’s and Q’s as her parents enjoyed their pancakes. Their table was very close to ours so I loved looking over to her, smiling back and forth and could see that she was a very content little girl when suddenly, her face lit up, and left arm reached out as her daddy pulled dollar bills from his wallet. She wanted to see what was in her Daddy’s wallet. We all started to laugh and I said “That is hysterical, she lit up when you pulled money out of your wallet.” He replied, “She loves shoes too.” Her Mom said, “I don’t know where she gets it, I think he is in trouble, he has no idea what’s to come.”
Chasing the High: Uncovering the Patterns of Attraction and Attachment
After years of chasing connection and struggling with attachment patterns, I'm learning that true healing comes from within. Breaking old cycles isn’t easy, but finding peace in the unknown and reconnecting with oneself is part of the journey. Hoping this resonates with those on a similar path.