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What Survival Mode Really Looks Like — and How to Find Your Way Out
We often think of “survival mode” as something that only happens during extreme situations — a crisis, a trauma, a major life change. But the truth is, survival mode can settle into your life slowly and quietly, until one day you look around and realize… you don’t remember the last time you felt okay.
I know because I lived there for over a decade.
The difference a year makes is massive—when you commit to the process and return to balance.
At the beginning of last year, I was working harder than ever.
Growing my business. Showing up for clients. Doing everything I thought I was “supposed” to do.
But in the background, my health was slipping fast.
In just 3 months, I ended up in the ER eight times.
No one could tell me what was really wrong.
I was exhausted, anxious, inflamed, and disconnected from myself.
Each visit ended the same:
“No answers.”
Just another pill… and another… and another.
Before I knew it, I was taking 7 to 8 different medications a day—and still felt awful.
I was bloated, fatigued, emotionally drained, and spiritually numb.
I reached a breaking point and asked myself:
“Is this the life I worked so hard for?”
“Is this what success looks like?”
The answer was a loud, painful no.
“Stop Trying to Heal Before You’re Honest”
In today's spiritual and personal development world, the word healing has become almost cliché.
It’s everywhere—on every Instagram quote, in every workshop, on every coaching call. But here’s the truth most won’t tell you:
Healing doesn’t start with a sound bath or sage. It starts with radical honesty.
We’ve become so obsessed with healing that we’ve bypassed the one thing that actually initiates transformation: the truth.
Before healing can take place, you must face the uncomfortable reality that you might be the problem. Not because you're broken. But because the patterns in your life—especially in relationships—don’t just happen to you.
They are mirrors.
And most people skip this step entirely. They’re told:
“You don’t have to know what’s leaving your body. Just trust the process.”
But I don’t believe that.
In fact, I believe the opposite.
You must know what energy is leaving you—because if you don’t name it, feel it, and understand it, you’ll unconsciously invite it right back in.
Why Your Wellness Routine Isn’t Healing You – And What Will
You wake up and do all the things “successful” people swear by.
You lift heavy at the gym.
You eat clean, organic, grass-fed everything.
You take the plunge—literally—into an ice bath for that cold rush.
You top it all off with red light therapy and an IV drip full of vitamins and minerals.
You're stacking your biohacks. Optimizing.
You're doing everything that should make you feel amazing.
But inside?
You're still anxious.
Still reactive.
Still exhausted in ways that green juice can’t touch.
And deep down… you know it.
The Silent Burnout Cycle You Don’t Even Realize You’re In
I need you to get real with me for a second:
Has pushing through ever actually helped you relieve stress — or has it just buried you deeper?
We live in a world that glorifies the "push through" mentality. We're taught that if we just work harder, hustle faster, and ignore our exhaustion, we’ll eventually "win" — at work, at life, at everything.
But here’s the hard truth:
The push through mentality is a lie.
And if you're anything like I was, you know deep down it’s not working.
When we push through stress — when we force ourselves to "just keep going" — we aren't actually solving anything. We're layering exhaustion on top of stress... and layering burnout on top of that.
8 ER Trips, 1 in an ambulance, along with ultrasounds, blood tests, urine tests, and a pile of other tests
8 ER Trips, 1 in an ambulance, along with ultrasounds, blood tests, urine tests, and a pile of other tests and more coming this upcoming week to close out this chapter of his life.
Reframing Anxiety: A New Perspective on Healing
Anxiety is something many of us experience, yet we rarely stop to question how we talk about it. More often than not, we treat it as a flaw, something to be ashamed of or managed quietly. But what if we've been looking at anxiety the wrong way?
Anxiety isn’t a personal failure. It’s not a sign that you’re weak, broken, or incapable. In reality, anxiety is a signal—a message from your body that something needs your attention. The real issue isn’t the anxiety itself, but how we respond to it.
For years, we’ve been taught that the best we can do is cope—deep breathing, mindfulness, or grounding exercises. While these can help in the moment, they often only address the symptoms, not the root cause. True healing requires us to go deeper, to understand what anxiety is trying to tell us, and—most importantly—to stop identifying with it.
the millionaire next door can be you!
Did you know that if you invested $100 per month in a market rate account, starting at age 25, the result would be $1,176,000 by the time you reach 65. This is assuming you reinvested the monthly earnings, and you did not withdraw anything from the account during the forty-year period.
This is a no brainer, right?
Why aren’t you or your young adult children or grandchildren saving now for the future?
People create excuses as to why they have not saved money for the future. Typically, the culprits are a lack of discipline and prioritizing wants over needs. Let’s also not deny the fact that in the USA, financial education starting as early as 7 years old is not a priority, and that lack of education continues all the way up to high school level and well into middle age for many people.
The Importance of Self-Love: Why Loving Yourself Changes Everything
Are you constantly searching for love and approval from outside of yourself? Maybe it’s from your parents, your partner, or your children. Maybe you grew up getting praised by coaches and teachers. This external love helps to temporarily fill a void within us, especially when it’s near constant since we’re getting it from all areas of our lives.
It’s what happens when we live in a society that teaches us to chase success, accomplishment, and beauty – we fall into the trap of external validation.
But what if the love we truly need has been right in front of us all along?
This is where self-love comes into play, and it’s one of the most powerful ways to heal yourself.